Tolerance
I remember thinking once about love and why love can cause so much trouble for some people. Relationships for one - kids another. The difference between each person and that love means something different for each of them. It could be said that as you don't love how I love then you must not love at all.
I think I remember feeling this way once. So how does that love or level of what is considered love seed from?
I will come back to that.
Most might know I am no stranger to trashy TV shows. A sudden intake of breath I hear!
But we all have our little things we like to indulge our time with. Looking at love as a subject matter in this trashy tv culture I can't help but wonder how most of the people can utter the love word.
I once might have thought that men don't feel the intenseness of love the same as women might. This was not a simple thing to look at but I felt I wanted to look at it so I did.
Where do we learn love from? Our parents? Our peers? Or is it primal and human and we simply feel it. And then as educated humans and by various means understand that feeling of love?
Do we watch our mothers or fathers and learn what love is from them?
Do we see that our main care giver has a daily tolerance for love.
A child could be a nuisance all day long and test every single level of love and patience but that cry at 2 am when the child is ill- all the days annoyance has all been forgotten. Is that love? Watching a parent or care giver take words or actions of hate and contempt from a young adult but a phone call crying for help and all the past has simply gone and they hurry to the young adults aid. Does this teach love or forgiveness or both?
Most might associate with being a mum or watching their mum in similar scenarios as just mentioned. Day in day out mum or dad is there work or not, morning, noon or night. Do we see this as love and it stays with us as a recognisable level of love.?
If that is the case having an absent parent or a nasty bastard parent every day does that mean a person growing up only sees that as the right way to treat others and recognises that kind of behaviour they have witnessed as a level of love and caring?
It begs the question about the level of love that some people will allow themselves to give or feel or simply give at a boundless level.
Maybe I should not spend so much time thinking about this stuff and watch more Jeremy Kyle !!
I will come back to that later ;)
Mel x
