WEDDING

The planning 

I have not got a new story that no other bride to be hasn’t got. The stresses of planning a wedding differ for everyone... correction...planning a wedding on a budget has stresses that are different for everyone! Do people care about what you did or didn’t do? Do they note the little touches that took forever to order and ship in? Or if the food was amazing or edible or will it be a tacky do.. or just, she looks fat and where is the free bar!? Considering the access to almost everything is possible I have to say I felt a lot more stress this time around in the planning part of the wedding, oh and the day itself. Some of the shit that went down had me nearly head butting people. Ahhaaa that’s the juicy bits that everyone wants to read, the negative shit that got ballsed up! So here it is... kinda 

Learned - ' stick to your guns, don’t become bullied or manipulated into being a hypocrite. ' 

Stress 

The most stress was caused by the ever on going potential explosive family issues. It’s a wonder most couples make it to their wedding days with the family issues and weddings! My husband says the true test of marriage is the planning itself. Not too far from the truth. Now if you had an endless amount of money I guess that the stress of having a limit on almost everything would probably be pretty minimal. Then just having to hope that all these getting paid to do a job, actually are going to do it and do a good job too! Looking back now it's easy to see myself stressing the silly stuff. My anxious paranoid mind had me thinking worst case scenarios left, right and center. Lost some hair and weight, was that due to stress? I'll let you know when my blood tests are back! 

Learned - ' keep your focus on what the day is about  for you and your partner.' 

Budget 

When first looking into getting married, in a hotel it was looking over 5 grand. We were considering that route very seriously. After some chats we figured to scale it down. We spoke about what the whole ' getting married ' meant to us both and how can we incorporate that into something we can share with our families. Simple answer really – party! The actual getting married 'bit'was for us but the celebration was what we could share. And so the plans begun and changed and changed again and again and again, place of marriage, venue dress, suits, everything! But we got there and we got there on a budget too. I might try and work out what we actually spent at some point but I can honestly say we didn’t break 4 grand. Just slightly under all in. 

Learned - ' know when to say stop and no, no, no, no. What you want and what you need are not the same.' 

Conflicts 

So once you are well and truly in the wedding planning circle and get recommendations out your arse. Everyone knows someone that does this or that blah d-e blah. Which is great! Don’t get me wrong but planning a year a head and then on the day or weeks on the run up to the wedding one that recommends another and you use them and they hate each other. Oh what fun! It was bollocks, mainly because the one up-man-ship they were doing was affecting my day. It was clear who had the upper hand when everything was running late. But when the bride is calling someone the c word only 2 hours after saying I will, you know you know too much. I should never of been dragged into their shit. I should never of known the things I was told. Ignorance is bliss!  

Learned- ' don’t get too cozy with the help. Let it go.' 

To be continued.....